AFew Months!

It's been a few months since I moved into my final home. I had given myself a bit of time to recover from the amount of stress, uncertainty and energy that I have used over the last 14 months with all the moves.

Having multiple conditions and moving is probably more stressful than just moving. Which is stressful in itself.

There are many things which I never thought about growing up with the main condition cerebral palsy which I spotted in my 1st move. But never thought of it until moving into the final home.

Here are some tips to make the transition smoother:

Involve the person with cerebral palsy in the planning process as much as possible. This will help them feel more in control and invested in the new home.

List any accessibility needs to be addressed in the new home.

This could include wider doorways, bathroom grab bars, or a lower kitchen counter.

Start unpacking and setting up the new home one room at a time.

This will help to avoid feeling overwhelmed.

Familiarise the person with cerebral palsy with the layout of the new home.

This will help them feel more comfortable and independent.

Be patient and allow plenty of time for the person with cerebral palsy to adjust to the new home.

Some tips can be done during settling into a new home. The biggest one I discovered in the last home as I got used to the layout of the place.

As an ambulatory wheelchair user, there was one major thing I was suffering in the first month and that is to use my home helper trolley that I have for transferring from one room to another. So that I could adjust to the different surfaces of certain rooms and areas.

My kitchen, hall and bathrooms are laid with lino

and the living room and bedrooms are carpeted.

I'm still struggling a little bit three months on but I'm getting better. I know that it's ok and I know that I will get used to the house and area. I still walk gingerly around some places as I don't go out as much as I did before.

A new place

A lot has happened since. But here I am.

A different place. Older and wiser than before. New things are coming slow and steady. Other things keep dropping off. I have learnt a lot over the last few years. Knowing that life has always a way of doing things to change your plans no matter what you want. It's ok though. Learning is what life is all about. In some ways life has been harder but in others it hasn't.

You think life is going one way then it shows you a different route. Sometimes they lead to a completely different place and sometimes it might just be a loop or bump in the road that either speeds things up or slows it down.

What's next ? Who knows. All that can be done by me is being done and the rest is out of my jurisdiction. The wait can be a problem but the best thing is to channel energy into other things. I'm trying my best to do that very thing. Yet there are so many distractions. Some are welcome, others are not.

What is left to do? A bit of clearing out. Not much though! Everything I had asked for is coming even though there have been difficulties. Some have been huge and others small. They all have challenged me most definitely. 

One of the things I have struggled with is patience. There's a saying ”patience is a virtue” and I know that it's one I wish I had. Especially when it's to do with things that are out of my control. Have you ever had those types of feelings? I know I have!

How do I deal with those feelings? That depends on what I'm wanting to be done by others. I know people probably think I should be doing everything. I can't however. It doesn't mean I don't want to. Just physically I can't.

You see, I'm an ambulatory wheelchair user. I used to do almost everything possible as a child and young adult. The older I have gotten, the less I have been able to do. There are many people who are like this. Not just me. 

Frustration is forever changing because things I could do a year ago. Now I either struggle with it or can't do it anymore. And things change. And as a person either accept the change or become more maudlin and then depressed. It's never easy to accept things about yourself as a teen or young adult. And if something happens while getting older. 

There is always the question “why me?” The question should actually be “why not me?” Or “what can I learn from the situation I'm in?” those questions are a better way. 

Because there's always something you can learn. Sometimes you may not be the one who needs to learn something but you are the one who is there to teach someone else something.  

Someone said that if you don't learn something the first time around then you are given multiple challenges until you learn what is required. 

The two things that I have learnt in my life so far is acceptance and understanding.  There are a few more things that I need to learn successfully. Such as listening, patience and the ability to stop worrying about things that are out of my control. Those things are not easy to do. I'm trying though. 

What do I want for the rest of my life? I went through a phase of doing things that are not really me. They gave me a new set of skills which is great. I know that those skills are going to be useful, however I'm not ready to use them properly yet. I know I will just not now. But I am excited to be doing what I'm doing. Especially as this is something I love doing but have not felt quite good enough to do it again because of my disability and other life situations that I had no control over. 

What is it that I can do for now?  Obviously I need to do physio and gentle exercises but what can I do?

Well there's been a few things that have changed since the beginning of this. There has been a massive change in the sense of two different moves. One was a temporary move because where I had been was not really good for me. The other. 

The other was the final. I'm finally settling into the new house but there's a few things that need to be done. And once they're done I'll feel more confident in the house. The other big change is the area of where I'm living.

It's a quaint village that has old buildings but the pavement is not really good enough for someone who is an ambulatory wheelchair user, or someone who is wheelchair bound. I need to go around on my scooter and get to know the area. However at the moment I'm stuck using a scooter which is totally not my type. Even if the colour is my favourite. Which means I'm stuck indoors until mine is repaired.

Luckily there's still some things that need to be done. Before having people around.

A New Season ahead

Welcome to a new season of Life with Sweetestmoondust. And sorry for being away for such a long time. There has been so much going on for me at the moment in the last year, almost a year. Have the first quarter. It was because we were getting things ready to start moving again.

Due to life. And the rent and everything else you can imagine. As things have been going for the last year or so, especially with COVID and everything else beforehand. because of various things as well, including moving. I was trying to look for a new place before Christmas last year.

The move at the end of the first quarter of this year, the second quarter was also settling in. And we're here for a little down. So on Third quarter hair and we're just been here since March.

And it's because I'm just doing it for my phone because I haven't got the space. To use everything that I've got to record my podcast or write. This season is going to be all about different things regarding my life. And regarding cerebral palsy and endometriosis.

life is on a day to day basis for everything of both with both, as well as everything else.

I'm going to be doing a few more podcast episodes. In the next few weeks or so. I'm trying to catch up with everything else that needs to be done. And I hope you can join me. It and see you then.

My favorite classic actors

 

Classic Hollywood movies have always been a source of inspiration for many people. The glamour, the romance, and the drama have captivated audiences for decades. And, of course, the actors who brought these stories to life have become legends in their own right. Here are some of the most iconic classic actors that have left a lasting impression on the world of cinema.

Marilyn Monroe

Marilyn Monroe is one of the most iconic actresses of all time. Her beauty, charm, and talent made her a Hollywood legend. She starred in many classic films such as "Some Like It Hot" and "Gentlemen Prefer Blondes"

Audrey Hepburn

Was a British actress and humanitarian who rose to fame during Hollywood's Golden Age. She was known for her elegant and sophisticated style, as well as her natural beauty and grace. Hepburn starred in many iconic films, including "Roman Holiday," "Breakfast at Tiffany's," and "My Fair Lady," and won numerous awards for her performances. In addition to her successful acting career. Hepburn was also a dedicated humanitarian, serving as a Goodwill Ambassador for UNICEF and working tirelessly to improve the lives of children around the world. Despite her untimely death in 1993, Hepburn's legacy continues to inspire and captivate audiences today.

Katherine Hepburn

was an iconic American actress known for her fierce independence and unconventional style. Born in 1907, she began her career on stage before transitioning to film in the 1930s. Hepburn was known for her sharp wit, intelligence, and strong personality, which often translated into her on-screen roles. She won four Academy Awards for Best Actress, a record that still stands today. Hepburn was also known for her personal life, which included a long-term relationship with actor Spencer Tracy. She continued to act well into her 80s, leaving behind a legacy as one of Hollywood's most beloved and influential actresses.

Grace Kelly

Was an American actress who became a princess after marrying Prince Rainier III of Monaco in 1956. Born in Philadelphia in 1929, Kelly began her acting career in the early 1950s and quickly gained recognition for her talent and beauty. She starred in several successful films, including "High Noon" and "Dial M for Murder," and won an Academy Award for Best Actress for her role in "The Country Girl" in 1955. Kelly retired from acting after her marriage to Prince Rainier and devoted herself to her new role as Princess of Monaco. She was known for her elegance, poise, and philanthropic work, and became a beloved figure both in Monaco and around the world. Tragically, she died in a car accident in September 1982 Monaco. 

Ginger Rogers

was an American actress, dancer, and singer who rose to fame during the Golden Age of Hollywood. She is best known for her partnership with Fred Astaire in a series of musical films in the 1930s, where she showcased her incredible dancing skills and charm. Rogers was a versatile performer who also acted in dramatic roles, earning an Academy Award for her performance in the 1940 film "Kitty Foyle." She continued to work in film, television, and theatre, throughout her career, and was admired for her talent, beauty, and grace. Rogers remains an icon of Hollywood's golden era and a beloved figure in American popular culture.

Fred Astaire

Was an American ballroom dancer who also was an amazing actor to boot. He was born in 1899 and was in vaudeville from the age of 4. As a young man he headed to Hollywood and began to act too. His most famous dance partners include Ginger Roger who is mentioned above Judy Garland, Joan Crawford and Cyd Charisse. He died in 1987 at the age of 88 from pneumonia.

Gene Kelly

Another American actor who was a fabulous dancer who has been compared against Fred Astaire to who was the better dancer. He was a dancer, actor, singer and director He was born in 1912 and died in 1996 after a few strokes which slowly made his health decline.  

James Cagney

Similarly to Fred Astaire was born in 1899 and died in 1986. Even more like Fred, he was a dancer as well. But and his comedic ability and use of deadpan made him full of acclaim and win multiple awards.

Cary Grant

Born Archibald Alec Leach, was a legendary actor who left an indelible mark on the world of cinema. With his dashing good looks, impeccable charm, and effortless sophistication, Grant became an icon of classic Hollywood glamour. His career spanned over three decades, during which he starred in numerous memorable films, including "North by Northwest," "To Catch a Thief," and "An Affair to Remember." Grant possessed a remarkable ability to seamlessly transition between genres, excelling in both romantic comedies and suspenseful thrillers. His impeccable comedic timing, combined with his suave demeanor, made him the epitome of the sophisticated leading man. Beyond his on-screen talent, Grant's personal life was equally fascinating. Known for his charisma and wit, he was often seen as the epitome of the debonair gentleman. Cary Grant's legacy continues to captivate audiences, and his impact on the film industry is undeniable, making him an enduring symbol of timeless elegance and cinematic excellence.

Frank Sinatra

Frank Sinatra, the legendary American singer and actor, remains an enduring icon of the entertainment industry. Born in 1915, Sinatra's remarkable career spanned over six decades, leaving an indelible mark on popular music. Known for his smooth, velvety voice and impeccable phrasing, he captivated audiences with timeless classics like "My Way," "Fly Me to the Moon," and "New York, New York." Sinatra's magnetic stage presence and charismatic persona made him a beloved figure, earning him the nickname "Chairman of the Board." Beyond his music, he ventured into acting, winning an Academy Award for his role in "From Here to Eternity." Sinatra's influence extends far beyond his era, as his music continues to resonate with listeners of all generations, solidifying his status as one of the greatest entertainers of all time.

And while a little girl growing up these were the most seen actors I saw on TV. So I will be doing a series of posts on each of them and how they influenced me as a person growing up .

My Favourite Musicians: A Personal Top Ten

Music has been an integral part of my life, in more ways than some and I have been lucky enough to discover many talented and inspiring musicians over the years. Here are ten of my favourite musicians, in no particular order:

1. Simply Red  - This British soul and pop band, fronted by the charismatic Mick Hucknall, has been enchanting audiences since the 1980s. Their unique blend of soulful vocals, catchy hooks, and smooth grooves makes them a timeless favourite. 

2. Frank Sinatra  - The legendary crooner and actor is one of the most iconic figures in music history. His smooth, velvety voice and impeccable phrasing have made him a favourite of generations of music lovers.

3. David Bowie  - The late, great Bowie was a true original, constantly reinventing himself and his music over a career that spanned five decades. His eclectic mix of rock, pop, and art music has made him a favourite of fans all over the world.

4. Wet Wet Wet  - This Scottish pop band had a string of hits in the 1980s and 1990s, with their smooth ballads and catchy pop tunes. Their heartfelt lyrics and soulful vocals make them a favourite of mine.

5.  Howard Jones - The British singer-songwriter and keyboardist had a string of hits in the 1980s, with his unique blend of pop, rock, and electronic music. His uplifting lyrics and catchy melodies make him a true favourite of mine.

6. The Rat Pack - This legendary group of entertainers, including Frank Sinatra, Dean Martin, and Sammy Davis Jr., defined the cool and sophisticated sound of the 1950s and 1960s. Their smooth vocals, catchy tunes, and witty banter make them a timeless favourite.

7. Mozart - The Austrian composer and pianist is one of the most iconic figures in classical music history. His intricate melodies, sparkling harmonies, and emotional depth make him a favourite of mine.

8. Chopin - The Polish composer and pianist is one of the most beloved figures in romantic music history. His delicate touch, poetic lyricism, and intricate harmonies make him a favourite of mine.

9. Buddy Rich - The legendary jazz drummer is one of the most influential figures in music history. His lightning-fast technique, musicality, and showmanship make him a favourite of mine. Sending shivers down my spine.

10. The Beatles - The iconic British band, consisting of John Lennon, Paul McCartney, George Harrison, and Ringo Starr, revolutionised music in the 1960s and beyond. Their catchy melodies, innovative harmonies, and timeless lyrics make them a favourite of mine. 

These are just a few of the many musicians who have inspired me over the years, and I am grateful for their creativity and passion. I encourage you to explore their music and discover your own favourites - after all, music is a universal language that can speak to our hearts and souls.

My Favourite Authors

Everyone has their favourite authors, those whose words and stories have touched their hearts and minds in a meaningful way. For me, there are ten authors who stand out above the rest as my absolute favourites. In this blog post, I will share a little bit about each of these authors and what makes them so special to me.

Terry Pratchett 

is at the top of my list, and for good reason. His Discworld series is a masterful blend of fantasy and satire, with richly-drawn characters and a clever wit that never fails to make me laugh out loud. Pratchett's writing is both entertaining and insightful, and his books always leave me feeling uplifted and inspired.

Agatha Christie 

Another author who holds a special place in my heart. Her detective novels are classic whodunits, with intricate plots and memorable characters that keep me guessing until the very end. Christie's writing is both clever and engaging, and her ability to weave together complex mysteries is truly impressive.

Sir Connan Doyle 

Perhaps best known for his creation of Sherlock Holmes, one of the most iconic characters in literary history. Doyle's writing is marked by his keen eye for detail and his ability to create complex, multi-layered plots that keep me on the edge of my seat. His stories are timeless classics that I never tire of re-reading.

Iain Banks 

is another favourite of mine, particularly his science fiction novels written under the name Iain M. Banks. His writing is marked by his visionary world-building, his philosophical themes, and his memorable characters. Banks' novels are both thought-provoking and entertaining, and I always find myself fully immersed in his imaginative worlds.

Reginald Hill 

is a British author best known for his Dalziel and Pascoe series of detective novels. Hill's writing is marked by his clever wit and his ability to create memorable characters that feel like old friends. His plots are always intricate and unpredictable, and I never grow tired of trying to solve the mysteries alongside his detectives. He died in 2012.

Charles Dickens 

is a literary giant whose works have stood the test of time. His novels are epic in scale, with vividly-drawn characters and a powerful social commentary that is still relevant today. Dickens' writing is both moving and entertaining, and his books have a timeless quality that continues to captivate readers of all ages.

J K Rowling  

a favourite of mine, particularly her Harry Potter seisries. Rowling's writing is marked by her incredible imagination, her memorable characters, and her ability to create a fully-realized magical world that feels both familiar and new. Her books are a joy to read, and I always find myself swept away by her storytelling. Although some of her personal views may be controversial.  

C S Lewis 

is an author whose works have had a profound impact on my life. His Chronicles of Narnia series is a masterful blend of fantasy and Christian allegory, with timeless themes of love, sacrifice, and redemption. Lewis' writing is both imaginative and insightful, and his books are a constant source of inspiration and comfort for me.

J R R Tolkien

is perhaps best known for his epic fantasy novel The Lord of the Rings. His writing is marked by his incredible world-building, his intricate plots, and his ability to create memorable characters that feel like real people. Tolkien's books have a timeless quality that continues to captivate readers of all ages, and his influence can be felt in countless works of fantasy fiction.

Ian Rankin 

is a Scottish crime writer best known for his Inspector Rebus series. Set in Edinburgh and the area around it. These include Knots and Crosses, Hide and Seek, Tooth and Nail just to name a few. In total there are 27.

I was introduced to these by the TV shows in the UK. With Scottish actors John Hannah and Ken Stott playing DCI Rebus.